I sold my Fat Jeans on eBay and now I want them back

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I’m one of those folks who has been on/off a diet her whole life. Yes, I’ve done them all.

Last year, my husband and I did have good success with Weight Watchers. We attended the weekly meetings (aka “Date Night“). We worked out at the gym Monday through Friday. We grocery shopped together, filling the cart with veggies and fruits. And I wrote down everything we ate.

But then “life” hit us. My closest cousin died. Hubby’s Mom was diagnosed with cancer. My son flunked out of college. Hubby’s job told him to relocate out-of-state. We have to fix and sell the house. Yesterday. (Hemorrhaging money, anyone?)

Many days I find myself, with spoon in hand, staring at the bottom of the bowl, not remembering putting the cereal and milk in there, and not remembering that I ate it. Ditto yogurt cups. Apple cores. Box of cookie crumbs. [insert favorite food item here.]

So I’m off to the next book about “How to Stop Overeating and Get in Shape” — or something similar. Β And why, oh why, does it always list the author of the book as a scholarly man or woman, with a degree in Nutrition, Physical Fitness, or Sports Medicine? What would they know about My World?

I’m not impressed with degrees. I want to read, “Joe, the author, is just an average guy, who lost 100 pounds and kept it off for 10 years. He does not have a degree from a college, but has successfully attended the School of Hard Knocks. He shares his secrets and insights with you, the common person.” Β That would mean something.

“Joe has overcome the need for food to comfort him when he’s lonely, to push back the terror when dealing with stressful situations, to squash the raging anger at his boss for belittling him.”

“Joe knows that One does not simply join and aerobics class. Joe understands the paralyzing fear of attending a class, seeing oneself in the mirror, and becoming unable to move–except to run out of the room to the safety of one’s car.”

“Joe knows how to overcome strange, frightening emotions that have been repressedΒ since childhood, when he was not allowed to have his own opinion, or disagree with a parent.”

“Joe can help YOU. He knows that you know the difference between an orange and a piece of cake, lettuce and ice cream, good carbs and bad carbs. What he will teach you are the skills required to live in the Real World.”

There is the off-chance that * I * will one day figure this out–and if I do, I will write a book that will actually help people. Real people. Real people who live in the real world.

Meanwhile, I would really like my fat jeans back!


195 thoughts on “I sold my Fat Jeans on eBay and now I want them back

  1. I can appreciate where you are coming from. I think my next book will be called – “Mindless Eating: How to Take Your Stress Out on Your Stomach”

      1. Congratulations. I’m very happy for you.

        Now, don’t forget about all the “little people” like me who read your blog before you were famous. πŸ™‚

    1. I definitely can relate. My next poetry book is titled Eat, Diet, Repeat. It should be out later this month. I have always eaten for two (or three). Born a Gemini I feed my internal twin Cassie or diet with my internal twin Polly.

  2. As I sit here eating my bag of (oh so good) Lay’s potato chips I can relate to this post. over the years I have adpated the motto: “It is what it is” πŸ˜‰

  3. You have written what I feel like and never dared to say!
    By the way that “triple chocolate cupcake” with chocolate chips and chocolate icing, I just ate was super delish!


  4. I don’t think diet books help. You know what would help? A big scary guy who follows you around all day and pokes you with a stick every time you grab a cookie. Hmm, maybe a potential business idea…

    1. It doesn’t matter what size you are, there’s always someone around that will make you feel bad about yourself if you let them.

  5. Never did understand why they offer degrees in nutrition, but seems to be a profitable publishing and tv-based business model.

    We unhealthy people for some reason rather enjoy watching Gillian McKeith telling off other unhealthy people and showing them unhealthy food while telling them it’s bad.

  6. Man, ohhhh, mannnnn do I understand! Life sure does get hectic and there’s no worse stress than health and money! I’m sensing a fat jeans shopping trip coming soon…

  7. What a rotten time you’ve been through! Enough to make anyone fall off any wagon they’d put themself on.

    Can I tentatively suggest Flylady? She’s a housekeeping coach but really, she gets you dealing with things from the inside out. Baby steps. Loving yourself (Fly = Finally Loving Yourself) and rooting out the perfectionism that paralyses us because we think we’re not good enough if we’re not perfect so we don’t even start. She talks about healthy eating too, again starting with baby steps. Drink your water! πŸ™‚ She’s changed my life, not so much because my house is tidier (which it is, but marginally) but because I no longer judge myself by my failure to keep it perfect.

    BTW I read an article recently on people who lose weight and keep it off. The suggested target rate for long-term weight loss is to lose 5% of your body weight PER YEAR. I weigh 80 kg (176 lb), and I want to get down to 75 kg (165 lb, still a BMI over 25 but I don’t care, I don’t think 25 is realistic for me), so I should aim to take just over a year to do it. I’ve worked out using the MyFitnessPal app that if I just stop eating peanut butter and drinking milo, I can do that! Now I have marmite and jam on my toast in the morning and drink fruit tea. Easy.

    I’m sorry this has turned into advice. I don’t mean to try to tell you what to do because you obviously have quite enough of that in your life as it is! But I guess I want to encourage you that you are capable of achieving your goals, and worth caring about.

  8. Forget everything you think you know about food, exercise, and weight loss and listen very closely. Your body is a billboard for how you feel. It reflects where your state of mind has been lately.

    It’s a scientific fact that when you are happy, you have a stronger immune system, a more efficient digestion, higher cognitive ability, and a smoother biochemical stress response, to name a few. It’s a no brainer to extrapolate that it takes less effort to maintain a certain body weight if you don’t get sick as often, get more energy from your food, think clearly throughout the day, and respond better to stress.

    I’ve been focusing all my attention on being as happy as I can muster, completely ignoring food and exercise for the moment, and with only that step and no other I’m already sleeping better, craving less crap, getting more creative insights, and just feeling more snarky and fun throughout the day. I also have more energy and when I have extra energy, I can spend it on exercise. The cycle just gets better and better.

    Every person’s body manifests imbalance differently, so some people will put on weight when they are unhappy and others will become unhealthy skeletons. Some go manic and some just want to sleep all day. Some get chronic colds and others get acid reflux. Many self-medicate until all their helpful early warning symptoms blur into mush. And their obedient bodies just try to stay alive through it all.

    Mood is where it starts. Really. A feeling is a chemical cascade in the body. If you marinate in negativity on a daily basis, it’s like doing the backstroke through poison for 24 straight hours. Joy, real joy, on the other hand, has a similar chemical signature to amphetamines and you don’t need to buy it on a street corner and dodge cops on the way home. A single happy memory can trigger it. And the more you practice something, the more efficient your brain becomes at doing it. You can become a joy machine.

    Practice being happy. Beautiful always follows.

  9. I so know where you’re coming from…. all my life…! But then, a strange thing happened when I hit 38. Last-chance-saloon syndrome, I suppose. I thought, if I don’t do it now, before the reputedly unshiftable middle-aged spread clenches its Rottweiler jaws around my midriff, I never will. So I finally lost that weight, and have kept it off for two and a half years.
    How? Crotchstrainer (aka. crosstrainer), an hour a day, every day. I still eat cakes, oh yes. Many years ago, I went off sugar for a couple of years. Now THAT was hell. I’m willing to employ some measure of discipline, but not deprivation.
    Where was I going with this… ah yes… well, just before I finally shed the weight, I got rid of all my skinny clothes (acquired over the years at the end of each short-lived dieting phase, you know how it is)… and I now so wish I hadn’t!!!!!! I was just so convinced at that particular point that I would NEVER manage to do it. How wrong I was.
    Good luck. You can make it happen, when the time is right πŸ™‚

  10. Hi there SueAnn,

    My name is not Joe, but I did lose over 120 lbs and I’ve kept it off over 6 years now. I wish I could just put in to your head all of what’s in mine, but a comment buried on your blog will have to suffice.

    I feel for you, sistah girl, truly! Food is my best friend in the wide world. I eat when I’m stressed… and when I feel any other emotion as well. Ultimately the struggle is not with food, it’s with the bratty five-year-old inside me who insists that having a pint of ice cream for dinner will make everything better.

    But it won’t. Food certainly is a nice distraction, though.

    Bottom line: You KNOW what you should be eating, and what you shouldn’t. So stick to it. Accept the fact that “life happens,” you’re NOT perfect, and sometimes you may have a day- or week- of crappy eating. That’s just fine. Get back on the horse, my friend, and keep the focus on HEALTH and WELLNESS, not on your jean size. Your body will adjust to its optimal weight when you give it the nutrition it needs.

  11. Having also been trying to lose weight since I was a teenager I too have a wardrobe of various sizes. I have been constantly trying to trim down but now rather than focusing on the scales I am eatting healthy as much as I can and treating myself every now and then. I would rather be fit than gaustly skinny. My Father died from heart disease only 9 months ago, a progressive silent disease that has made me terribly aware that the decisions we make in our early years food wise and health wise need to be healthy otherwise this silent killer could be at my own door step.
    Live healthy not on a restrictive diet. For you and for your family. But definately keep the fat and skinny clothes.

  12. Can definitely relate. Except I have the fat pants in my closet next to the thin ones, and I’m wearing the fat ones. My doctor’s office give me a handout about being fat EVERY stinkin’ time I go there. Really? Great Freshly Pressed post.

  13. Great post! I’m sorry for everything you are going through.
    No wonder you’ve been having trouble keeping up with the success you had on Weight Watchers. These programs are hard enough to follow when your world revolves around them and things are going right. When life is throwing crap at you and you can’t spend your date nights shopping for veggies, it’s so easy to fall off the wagon, especially when food is comfort for most normal folks.
    So I hope you aren’t being too hard on yourself. I’m sure you’ll get back on the wagon when life settles down. In the meantime, you should forget your old jeans and treat yourself to a new pair (maybe even from ebay!).
    Congrats on being Freshly Pressed!

    1. Thanks for stopping by. I’m sorry you had cancer. (I didn’t make it to your site yet, so I don’t know your story.) I had breast cancer a few years back. I’m ok now.
      Yes, I hope someday to have a “normal” life.

      1. Thank you…I’m on a good morphine/percocet regimen now, so life’s not so bad! πŸ˜‰
        I’m glad you are doing okay, but sorry to hear that cancer has touched you personally, too. What a rough road you’ve had! That ebay lady should just give you your jeans back with her compliments!
        Thanks for taking the time to respond to my comment. And I hope life is kinder to you in the future!

    2. Cancer is a terrible disease, but so are the treatments. I won’t say “cure.” The only cure is prevention. I gained weight on the “off” weeks between chemo-therapy. It’s taken me a couple of years to get those pounds back off.

  14. DO NOT BUY BACK YOUR JEANS! I am a triathlete and after two years of training, I was told I had class 1 obesity. And this being that I worked out daily. I used to write in a blog about my triathlons and wanted to share a post I wrote about that experience.


    I went and got a dietitian. I love that woman to pieces for all she’s done for me. So I hope you find someone who can understand your needs as well. Be strong. You can do it.

      1. We’ve all been there. And if it is any consolation, you go to any Ironman competition, you will see people who don’t look so fit and tone but can swim, bike and run with the best of them.

        It happens to all of us. Have courage.

  15. I completely understand. I’ve been battling with weight, going up and down and never stabilizing. I think I would like a book written by the average person too!

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  16. aahhh, its been my dream of writing that book since i was a child but everytime i think i should write, the dream gets burdened by the growing number on the scale! but i know i am hopeful yet and will do so someday…
    good luck to you and am hoping to get a copy of your book soon πŸ™‚

  17. I’m right there with you when it comes to wanting a real person to have written that book, hence my reasoning for starting my blog. I’ve lost 55lbs in the last year as a single mom. Anyone who knows about parenthood knows being a mom in general is hard enough now add in the stress of one income, the time constraints of no second set of hands to watch, feed, change, wake up at all hours of the night…the list goes on, but maybe you will consider following my blog. Yes it is new but who knows maybe it will give you that little bit of inspiration you need. Or at least you can laugh at the crazy journey of a single mom trying to lose weight chasing after an 18month old! Good luck.

    1. Hi singlemommalosing it…Yes, I was a single mom for a decade too. Although it was easier than keeping the husband. Then I would have had TWO children instead of one!

  18. I feel this, its all well and good while things are all ‘normal’ then life happens !! Why is it that things never happen one at a time? its like life is saying here have a year or two’s worth of hell just to kleep you on your toes. I am in one of those stages and I too have got rid of my old clothes …now buying back new ones! thank god for ebay though or I would be broke !
    I have just started a new diet and I seem to be getting on ok, its all about helping your body to curb those cravings for sweet things and huge ammounts of carbs. It seems to be working ok, weight coming off slowly but its not going back on so far and to be fair the cravings have gone …..only a few weeks in so fingers crossed. Harcombe diet.

    If in the mean time you do write that book please let me know ..I will be first in the queue.

  19. In the meantime two really helpful books are The Slow Down Diet by Marc David (yes he has a string of degrees but also common sense) and French Women Don’t Get Fat by Mireille Guiliano.

    My mom and all of my aunts (except one) managed to stay thin without exercise (other than walks along the beach) and enjoy real food. It is possible. Sometimes I think food anxiety makes things worse instead of better.

  20. “β€œJoe knows how to overcome strange, frightening emotions that have been repressed since childhood, when he was not allowed to have his own opinion, or disagree with a parent.”
    Really good to see someone else has experience of this and it’s not just me and my “imagination” interesting reading

  21. I totally understand, and sympathize with you. I have a clothes ranging from 0 – 13, I can have my own store, (Ha, I am not a 0 at this time, I was before “The Great Weight Gain of 2008”, as I call it) The reason why I don’t part with all my larger size clothes. I still see the short (5ft), overweight women in the mirror. No, I don’t have a eating disorder, I eat porportional, try not to make bad food choices or deny my self what I love (I am the soda monster, per my kids) and eat only when I am hungry. I just worry one day, I may need those clothes. I am sure people think I am crazy, but I have been the yo-yo weight gainer (who knew at 35, getting old is no joke) it’s not pleasant and it’s discouraging, hard on the self esteem. Also several medications do not disclose their horrid weight gaining side effects, (neither does divorce or bankruptcy). So the clothes remain. I suggest thrift shops, you may find a simililar pair of your favorite jeans there, in the interim. I really loved your post, I think we are all “Joe and Jane Averages” while our stories are different, they are not unique, we are all people who are living Real Life, struggling with weight loss, looking for a REAL PERSON to write about it. What you said is perfect, I would totally buy it!! Good luck on jeans!! 😊

    1. I used to have a box of jeans from the high school days that I literally moved with me to several apartments for several decades. it was freeing to finally let those go~

  22. Since my husband was recently diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and doesn’t want to eat very much at all. I was sure I could use that excuse to loss weight on my own too. No……not so much…..I’d rather be fat and have him healthy of course but that is working out either. Thanks for making me smile today. I just started a blog on WordPress called whatdayisit2b.

    1. I’m sorry to hear about your hubby! I’m glad I made you smile, sometimes if we can’t laugh we will cry.. I will check out your blog…I often ask “what day is it?” πŸ™‚

  23. It’s so deflating when you have to go back to your “fat” clothes. I remember celebrating when I finally was able to donate all my old stuff, and then the moment life threw a curveball at me and I needed those clothes back again….sigh

  24. Simply put, and oh so true. I, like you, have been dieting on and off since my first hard-boiled-egg-two-saltines-and-an-apple-diet that I put myself on in 7th grade. I obsessed WAY too much about my weight when I really didn’t need to, and now that I need to lose about 15 pounds, I have mastered every trick in the book for cheating on diets. Nothing ever seems to permanently get me off this stinking hamster wheel of never ending diet-cheat-guilt cycle, so my fat jeans are always close by. GROAN!

  25. You are so right on a need for a book written by “Joe the Dieter”. Speaking of that, I could not find an email address for you so I’m placing a link here to an anthology called, “Not Your Mother’s Book…On Dieting” that I am Co-Creator of and we are looking for humorous stories about dieting. Check out the link and please consider submitting a story. http://publishingsyndicate.com/publishing_syndicate/submissions/title_descriptions/dieting.html

    It may not be your “Joe” book, but it is filled with stories from folks just like us who try everyday.

  26. Thanks for being transparent. It will be a huge help to everyone. When I graduated high school in 1990, I was 110 pounds. In 2010, I was up to 180 pounds. Now, I’m down to 160 pounds and I eat what I want in moderation which has been very help. In addition, I took a chance on an all-natural body wrap that took off the weight that wouldn’t come off with just exercise. I know it sounds as if I’m trying to sell you something, but this wrap has changed my life. Check out my blog for details and see some of the simple changes that I made such as drinking a 20 ounce glass of cold water every day to facilitate these changes. http://www.tobehealthytoday.com

  27. Totally with you that a degree does not help when dealing with Food and the Real World. I’m that person who is terrified of gym classes. I’ll read your book when it comes out. Congrats on Freshly Pressed!

  28. I threw my fat jeans away! Now I just bought a kaftan from EBay to cover my extra tire. I tried on the dress and my husband said it looked like a tent. So, now I need a belt. Part of the game, I guess. Congrats on being Freshly Pressed. πŸ™‚

    1. thanks! is a Katftan like a mumu? I have considered that from time to time. At least all my parts would be covered. I have more respect for someone who covers themselves in a blanket, than tries to squeeze into their clothes–but parts squeeze out of them.

  29. I too found you on freshly pressed! Excellent post, and it tugs at my heart strings too. Unfortunately though, I do fall into the field of an academic, but it doesn’t relate to health….I am also a oompa loompa, so I am hoping I can still be your new friend?! LOL. I look forward to reading more of your inspiration, πŸ™‚

  30. I can relate! I stare at my closet filled with size 2 clothes thinking I may someday fit into them again, all the while I am busting out of size 8s. Thanks for the blog

    1. Thank you Lara. I was shocked that I was freshly pressed. It was strange to sign on and have all these comments. But of course strange in a GOOD way.

      I will check out your blog too.

  31. I’ve also been on a diet like…forever. I’ve tried everything, but that yoyo-effect kills me! Let me know if you find Joe πŸ˜€

  32. Oh my – never mind the fat jeans, how about jeans that actually look good on me? I’m with you on the yo-yo front… and as you say, whenever you get close, life hits you, often in my case with meds that put weight on. My current diet is the 2 day diet (2 days of high protein and no carbs and only this fruit and that veg), and 5 days of 1600 cals – if I can keep to that – but I’m not sure it’ll work – I’ll let you know!

    1. Best wishes to you on your diet, I found for myself personally I cannot totally cut out carbs. I can get rid of wheat, etc, but the “good carbs”: oatmeal, kidney beans etc, are needed. We all have different chemistry… I hope it works out for you. Thanks for stopping by!

  33. I lost over 100lbs and kept it off for 6 years now. I haven’t written a book yet, but I will be updating my new blog (I don’t have a ton of content yet) with everything I have learned over the past 7 years. It took me 6 months to lose the 1st 70lbs. The next 6 to lose 20 more. After that I would lose about 5 lbs every year over the course of 6 years. If I could give myself the knowledge that I have today, it would take about 9 to 12 months to lose it all.

    As for people who have written books, I can recommend “The Gabriel Method.” Jon Gabriel was an average guy who lost about 200lbs, and talks extensively about what he calls our FAT programs. Reading his book will help you to understand the mechanisms behind why your body wants to be fat in the first place. I wish I had read this book during my weight loss journey. It would have saved me a lot of pitfalls. Instead, I read it long after I had lost the weight. I will make 3 quick recommendations though.

    Eat a diet that is high in healthy fats like organic coconut oil and grass fed butter. This communicates to your body that you are in a land of plenty and there is no need to hold on to access weight.

    Gradually lower the amount of carbs you eat. Men can do low to no carb diets and feel phenomenal. Women tend to need more carbs. This is very individualized, and will train your body to use its fat stores as a food source rather than needing a meal every 3 hours.

    Toxins in food, such as fungal toxins are stored in fat tissues. If you are consuming toxins your body will want to increase your fat stores. Avoid high toxin foods and take supplements that bind toxins. Greens, activated charcoal and bentonite are good for this. When you burn your fat these toxins are released. Ever wonder why you may feel like crap after losing 15lbs and have urges to eat bad things? Thats your body trying to make more fat to bind up those toxins.

    Chronic stress or pain mimic famine conditions. This makes your body want to pack on the pounds. Doing simple things like sitting down and writing a plan to leave your stressful job will help you be able to lose the weight since you now have an end in sight. Think about how you feel when you are hungry, but can’t get food versus when you are hungry, but know you have to wait an hour for your meatloaf to finish cooking.

    1. Thanks for stopping by Steve. I have been increasing my “good fats” (olive oil etc). I also found along the way that I am “allergic” to wheat–not in the sense that it will kill me, but this crap that they sell is not the way nature intended. Once I gave up wheat, I lost 8 pounds in one week from that alone.
      As for Chronic stress–In MY case, it is a spiritual issue, one I have been struggling with for a long time.
      And yes, the toxins!! Well that’s a book right there!
      Thanks for your comments.

      1. Thanks for posting Sue.

        Gluten messes a lot of people up including me. Dairy proteins are another notorious one. Definitely look up The Gabriel Method. Based on your post I feel like it could really give you a lot of Ah Hah moments.

        1. I have not found gluten itself the problem for me personally, but the wheat. I will try to find the Gabriel Method…as soon as I find the floor.. thanks for stopping by

  34. Sorry for your bad luck streak 😦
    I am such a stress eater. What you said about struggling with emotions because you weren’t allowed to express an opinion or disagree with a parent as a child really hit home with me. I haven’t thought about it before, but one of my dad’s biggest problems is that he gets furious whenever anyone presents an opinion that’s different from his. Possible source of overeating? Probably.
    Thanks for posting!

    1. Hi there brainlace–yes, my lack of figuring out what I am feeling, if I am feeling, goes back to my father’s temper and verbal and physical abuse. There seems to be a lot of us out here… I was not allowed to voice an opinion. When I raised my son, I let him speak his mind–some people said I was too easy on him, but my son is an adult, and loves and respects me.
      Thank you for stopping by and commenting.
      Nice to meet you!

  35. This rang so many bells for me. I lost 45 pounds on WW, kept it off for 2 years, and am now – in the wake of a very stressful year – putting it slowly back on. Here’s the thing: the fact that almost everyone can relate to this story suggests so many, many things that are wrong with the world we live in. Why do we eat to comfort ourselves? Why is crap food we crave so available to us? Why do we feel so bad about ourselves when we put a few, or many, pounds on? What is wrong with this whole entire big picture?

    I know there are no easy answers to this. At the beginning of this year, I made a food resolution that I have not kept, but that I keep willing myself back toward: Eat Right, Not Light. I wrote about it here:


    Good luck with your struggle: you’ve encapsulated it so beautifully here.

    1. Thanks Siobhan! I find that when I am really stressed, I can’t even eat lettuce, it makes me nauseous. And if I am really stressed, exercise makes it WORSE. I know all the experts disagree, but some of us go to a higher (or should I say lower and deeper–depression).

      Thanks for visiting. Your blog is good too!

  36. Brilliant title. And, yes, I can relate. Did WW, too, and it worked very well. But, counting points doesn’t last forever (at least not for me). :/

    1. It’s very difficult for me to count points forever — several reasons, but one off the bat is I have an OLD cell phone. I refuse to “upgrade” for an extra 70 bucks a month, just so I can enter my food points into my phone.
      Thanks for visiting! Nice to meet you.

  37. Also found you on freshly pressed und the title immediately hit me. As I am on some kind of diet myself right now. First of all a HUGE thanks for writing this! I sometimes feel that lots of people think you’re weak when you eat out of stress (which I totally do), so it helps a lot to see that I’m not the only one.
    Anyway, I don’t have a strict diet plan, but try this “loose weight while sleeping method”, which basically means you don’t eat carbohydrates in the evening, but lots of them in the morning and whatever you want for lunch. Seems to work quite well for me. I now have cereals and yogurt for breakfast (I got like three kinds of cereals so it’s not boring and often combine them with fresh fruit – yummy) and stuff like a big salad in the evening. It does take time to lose weight like this, maybe 1 pound a week or something like it, but last month I was lazy, ate desserts much too often, had too much cake for my birthday, ignored the no-carbs-at-the-evening thing very often (really hard to stick to at BBQs) and at least I didn’t gain weight. So I guess this will be my long-term diet.
    Another thing that helps me was to bring a little movement in my life. Not really sports, but I now ignore lifts and escalators and always take the stairs and instead of taking the tram on my way home from work I take a 20 minute walk. Also takes a few weeks to show results, but as I said, I’m taking this slowly.
    Hope this helped you a little and: You’re not alone πŸ™‚ Hardest for me is still to say no to chocolate. I just love chocolate. I simply don’t buy it, because I know I can’t say no once it’s in the house. And cakes. Especially since I like baking. I now only bake when I’m invited to friends, so I can only have one piece of it and give the rest to them. Trying to outsmart myself πŸ˜‰
    I really wish you all the best and good luck with your diet. I definitely believe that it is possible to get a long term effect without castrating yourself!

  38. Darling, people who live in the real world already know what food is good for them and what food is *good*. Not always the same thing. I can tell you to the gram (I’m Canadian) how much sugar and salt is in any food product. I do watch these things.

    But I also eat brie with ginger snap cookies and I put Goldschlagger on vanilla ice cream (something I learned from a Swede). I prefer when food is cooked by other people. I put butter on my bread. I adore cooking shows that don’t cook diet food.

    And when I made the decision to eat without too much worrying, and to eat *good* food without harping when I make a trip to McDs now and then, and to walk because I *like* walking and dance because I *love* dancing… I lost 10 pounds.

      1. If you were in Toronto, I could teach you how to dance in 10 minutes. *grin* I’ve taught dance off and on for over 20 years. One thing I know is that bigger girls who know their bodies are easier to teach than any girl (size doesn’t matter) who don’t. Anyway, the best advice I can give you, dance or no dance, is to live your life well under your own terms, not anyone else’s. Good Luck!

        1. HI Solace, my inability to dance has NOTHING to do with my size (I couldn’t when I was thin either) It has to do with the VICE on my head from child abuse.
          Thanks for your comments.
          Thankfully, I can still walk, swim (not overhand) and bike at the gym.

  39. Congrats on being freshly pressed, which is where I found this post. The one thing I have come to grips is that the word “Diet” needs to be stricken from our vocabulary. “Diets” by nature are short term, If you instead change your life-style, then life cant derail your progress. That is my theory, and as a really big guy, I started to live what I am telling you. I started my journey 2 months ago changing my life and started a blog after request and request, and I am detailing my ups and downs and what I am learning, as well as sharing others peoples journeys. You can check it out at http://www.ourpersonaljourney.wordpress.com. Good luck on your journey. And I hope you never buy your jeans back.

  40. I feel your pain! Have been there my whole life too. But finally, maybe, I’ve got a handle on this. 4 years ago I lost 35 pounds and have kept off 25-30 of it consistently. I finally started eating well, real fat and nothing processed with a lot of chemicals designed to make you crave. I am trying to be like the French who believe in small quantity, huge quality. I do weigh myself almost every day to keep my head in reality about it. I’m hoping maybe I’ve finally grown up in the department of feeding myself! Good luck to you!

    1. Hi Mary, Yes, I’ve had good years where I’ve kept off 50 or more pounds, and then life hits HARD: cancer/surgery/fill in the blanks… and the weight creeps back up. Best wishes to you too!

  41. Hi there! I just saw your post in Freshly Pressed. I can relate to this post because I’m the type of girl that has been on and off a good diet and doing some workout, then life happens and I’m back to bad eating habits again. French fries are my comfort food together with a huge glass of soda. Eating pizza for lunch and a donut for dessert is my everyday comfort food.

    These past few days, I got depressed and I saw myself not having the urge to eat. So I just skipped meals because I don’t have the energy to work out – not your healthy diet at all. I was online and saw this youtube link about the workout programs of beachbody. I’ve heard from friends that the P90X thing really worked for them.

    They are just really ordinary people having the same problems like us but the program worked for them conveniently at their own living room. I bought the Brazil Butt Lift Program just because it looks more fun than the P90X.

    I hope I find the motivation to keep on working out and being healthy everyday. Reading the results and success stories of other people motivates me and I hope we both find the motivation to keep on doing it.

    God bless xo

    1. Thanks for stopping by, itsnotcoco. Unfortunately I am too old and arthritic to be doing P90X, but for the younger folks, that’s definitely an option. When I was thin, (30 years ago) I worked out 2 hours a day, and smoked 2 packs of cigs a day. Not healthy, but that was the price. I DON”T recommend that for anyone.

      I hope you find the motivation !! There are MILLIONS of us out here!!

      Best wishes to you,

  42. Great Blog! I can totally relate and agree with you. I would love to have a book written by a regular person that somehow figured it out. I just started blogging ( 2 days ago) and part of what I hope to do is share my own struggle with weight. Maybe sometime in the future we can collaborate and write that book together but for now I have at least 50 pounds to go. πŸ™‚

  43. I stumbled upon you via ‘freshly pressed’. Yep, you are definitely not alone. I’m always on the look out for books with answers from non ‘scholarly’ type people. I have found one you might like “The amazing adventures of Diet Girl” by Shauna Reid. Its the only weightloss journey book I have really liked. And it was my inspiration in losing 40 kilos (88 pounds). But i also know how life can sneak up and bite you…I’ve put back on 17kilos (37pounds) since having twins and PostNatal Depression. I am writing this while snacking on chocolate frogs.

    1. Hi hezwill, thanks for stopping by. I think a lot of us go to food for comfort when life gets overwhelming. If I can break that habit/lifestyle/reflex I would be very happy! Congratulations on your twins!

  44. I’m one of those people with a degree in Sports Medicine… and Nutrition… and I hope to one day write a book πŸ™‚ BUT I think the difference is that I’m not just my degrees… I’ve struggled with emotional eating my whole life, so I can relate, and I am STILL trying to figure it all out. Someday when I write my book, hopefully people will find me as relatable as “Joe”, even with my degrees πŸ˜‰ Great post!!!

    1. Hi sdorsay, that’s what I’m talking about, it’s the emotional stuff that we need help overcoming. we ALL know an apple is better than cake…but how do we run away from the cake, and pick the apple, that is the question.
      thanks for stopping by!

  45. It is said that you don’t miss something not unless you lose it. I sure hope there is an easier way to get your fat pants back from ebay.

  46. I don’t know if this helps, but when i stopped looking at what I ate and how hard I exercised I had a breakthrough. Being overweight and/or unfit were symptoms of another problem, they were not problems in their own right. The problems were complex, but came down to two main things: I hated myself and I couldn’t manage stress. When life was all good i managed the strength to control the food and run on the treadmill (which, don’t let me discredit, are things i believe can be priorities when we are balanced), but life cannot always be good, and so I yo-yo’d. I spent my whole life fighting sugar 24/7, looking at the bottom of the cereal box/ cookie jar just like you, wishing I knew why I was the way I was. Overeating is a symptom, you just need to find out what your real problem is. It’s the most challenging thing to do, and it can take a long time. Change is a slow process, but I really believe everyone can be free of the yo-yo diet by looking at the real cause. I just started a blog on my journey in this space, check it out if you think I might be onto something
    . http://wellnessmission.wordpress.com/

    1. HI justdownrightme, thanks for stopping by. I know that my main issue is inability to handle stress and inability to understand/process/acknowledge feelings. I’ve been doing this over 40 years, but I haven’t given up yet.

      Thank you for your comments.

  47. I have the same issues. I am a compulsive overeater and a sugar addict. Food has always been my drug of choice. I did 1000 different diets, including Weight Watchers a number of times, and none of them worked for me because I don’t eat like a normal person. I finally had to give up sugar and processed junk foods (like chips and pretzels) forever, one day at a time. Overeaters Anonymous has helped me to get to the bottom of the reasons I eat and has given me the tools I need to deal with the crappy side of life without turning to food for comfort. Maybe it’ll work for you, too. ❀

    1. hi, Mamperpetua, thanks for stopping by. I went to Overeaters Anonymous for a while. Although I learned a lot there, it was not enough… I am pulling some info from here, some from there. I think my bottom line is I have to give up WHEAT entirely, and anything with corn syrup. I just need to get organized!!
      Thanks for your comment,

      1. I had to give up wheat (in fact, all grains) AND dairy. I have fewer food choices, but I’m enjoying better health. My sample diet is included in my book Eat, Diet, Repeat a collection of poetry about eating, dieting, food, influences, temptations, etc. See RoseKlix.com Best wishes.

    2. Sugar in its various forms is very addictive. Artificial sweeteners are even worse. I use stevia when necessary. You sound like my internal twin Cassie. We experienced many diets and support groups before her twin Polly set us straight. Medical science and food pyramids assume we humans need the same foods. I’ve been successful using the blood type diet. Why not? We have different blood types, so we probably have different food needs. Best Wishes.

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