Now you’re wondering where I’m going with this…Hang on. Just a few things I have noticed.
1. I saw a young girl, maybe fourth grade, standing in line in school. There was a boy next to her who was poking at her, and pulling her hair. She told him to stop. He didn’t. She told the teacher. The teacher replied, “Just ignore him.” Well isn’t that nice. He can touch the girl all she wants, and she can’t do anything about it. All she can do is turn off her feelings, which have been invalidated, and accept the unwanted touching of a boy. Now probably in this case, he has a crush on her, and it’s the only way he can deal with it, but what have we taught either one?
2. I was at a friend’s house. Her son came in and started insulting his younger sister. Again, instead of disciplining him (smack to the head, soap in the mouth?) or just correcting him verbally, “Leave her alone, you are not allowed to speak to her like that,” my friend told her daughter, “Just ignore him.”
3. I was once at a church, and a young boy was hitting and hurting a girl. I stepped in and stopped it. He answered me, “I can do that to her if I want, she is not my sister.” Yikes. Meanwhile, the mom was inside the church, up at the altar prophesying and telling about her dreams.
How about raising up your child in the way he should go, so that when he is old, he will not depart from it? Proverbs 22:6
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