The video of a woman walking down a city street, listening to men call out to her, has struck a nerve.
The video was done to show what an average good-looking woman goes through every day in the city.
She was not scantily dressed; just what an average woman would wear while on her way from point A to point B.
She was wearing microphones, and was working with a man who walked in front of her with a camera in his backpack. No one would know they were being taped when they spoke to her.
As a formerly good-looking woman, I can relate to the fear that this woman would experience. Every single cat-call or “greeting” requires a split second decision: “Am I in danger?” When this goes on for hours, it can really drain your adrenal glands. She is not free to walk down the street, contemplating what will happen at work that day, or meeting friends for lunch. She has to think continually, “Is there a threat against me?”
Many commenters on websites have said that people were merely saying hello and that it’s no big deal. It is a big deal. A woman is sexually assaulted every 15 seconds in the country. I’ve read comments where they called her “rude” or said she was dressed too sexy. What?!
Many of the men in the video were obviously interested in more than “hello.” They saw her as a sex object, and felt perfectly fine saying so. “You’re beautiful, you’re beautiful.” “Why don’t you say thank you that he thinks you’re beautiful?!” Because she is NOT here for your pleasure. She is here for herself. Why should she be expected to answer every comment? She would never get where she is going if she had to stop and chat with everyone who approached her.
I remember watching a third-grade class line up to change classrooms. A boy pulled a girl’s hair and hurt her. She immediately told the teacher who replied, “Just ignore him.” The boy smiled. He could do whatever he wanted to the little girl, and the one who was supposed to protect her did not. This reinforces that 1) she has no right to her body and 2) the boy can do whatever he wants to her. Incidents like these happen all the time. What are we teaching our children?
I’m glad this woman took the time to make the video. I admired her bravery to do it, and then to post in for the world to see, knowing that many people would criticize her.
I consider what was done to her bullying. There is such a big movement to stop bullying in schools; why not stop it in the culture as a whole?